Today I am writing this post not as a wedding photographer, but as a bride…I hope you can find some joy in reading this, and take from it some words of advice : )
As the forth anniversary of my marriage approaches, I find myself thinking back to my wedding day. Wally and I had picked the perfect location, invited our closest friends and family members, and carefully created details, invitations and flower arrangements. When the day of our wedding finally arrived, we woke up together that morning and talked about what lay ahead. I had been given so much advice and so many suggestions by everyone I knew and I took all of that to heart.
As a wedding photographer, I see so many emotions though out the wedding day and it reminds of my own wedding and the emotions I felt as I woke up that morning four years ago.
I don’t post many pictures of myself or my husband on here, but as I was looking back through my own wedding pictures I was reminded of the words of wisdom my fellow brides passed on to me.
So with that said, I want to share some of the advice I was given and hope that it helps you to enjoy your moments even more!
When we first talked about whether or not to see each other before the ceremony, I think a little part of me wanted to have that “big” moment when I walked down the aisle and he saw me for the first time. But in the end we decided we wanted to spend more time with each other that day, so when the moment finally arrived and it was time for our first look, I realized it was SO much better to have a “little” moment between just us. I remember waiting for our ceremony to start, and the moment came where he had to go out and walk the mom’s down the aisle. He gave me a little kiss and said “See you soon”. That is a moment that is frozen in my memory forever!
One thing someone told me when we were first engaged was: “just tell yourself to remember this moment, and you will”. This is the one piece of advice that really stuck with me. And when my dad walked me down the aisle, I told myself to remember this moment. I looked at all of our friends and family who had come from all over the country to see us get married. I have never felt more loved in my life. It was the absolute best moment of my life and I remember it all very clearly! So when you walk down the aisle to marry your beloved, tell yourself to remember the moment, look at all your loved ones and take it all in!
I don’t really have any advice about the above picture, but it is one of my favorites from our day! In fact, each wedding I photograph, I always make sure to not only photograph the kiss, but to photograph that split second after the kiss.
This is one part of your wedding day that is true raw emotion and I love being able to capture that moment for my couples!
When you are in the midst of all the craziness, sometimes it’s hard to remember to include your significant other in the details of the wedding. In the middle of hiring all of our vendors for our wedding, I asked Wally what he wanted to be in charge of. He loves music and we needed a cake so that was his job! He picked out every song that was played that night, he worked with the DJ on special dedications and he even had a surprise song played at the end of the night for us. To be honest, I did not even know what song we were dancing to for our first dance! For the cake, he worked with the baker on a design he liked and we used grapes from the vines of the vineyard we were married at! Best of all, I think he really liked being in charge of these tasks. But don’t tell him I said that ; )
At some point during your reception, take a step back and just watch for a while. It might be difficult to get away, so many people want to chat with you and congratulate you. But, at some point, find some time for yourself and your honey to just peer through the door and watch your wedding happen.
Trust me, you will be glad you did!
And last but not least..Don’t forget to laugh and be silly with each other! It will be the best day of your life, enjoy 🙂
All images were taken by our good friends and photographers: Heidi and Fred Iacovoni